Definitive Guide to Toi et Moi Rings (2024)

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by Suzanne Sachs  5 min read



Toi et moi rings are beautiful, unusual ring designs that can be rich with symbolism and significance. The highly romantic style is perfect for a promise ring, engagement ring, or just a meaningful and lovely gift or a signature piece – but how can you get this trendy look?


In this guide, we will explain the following:

  • About Toi et Moi Rings
  • Origin of Toi et Moi Rings
  • You and Me Ring Designs
  • Celebrity Styles
  • Make The look Your Own
  • Stones
  • Cuts
  • Spacing
  • Angles
  • Size
  • Choosing a Toi et Moi Ring

About Toi et Moi Rings

A "toi et moi" ring is a type of ring that features two prominent gemstones, typically of equal size, set side by side. The term "toi et moi" is French for "you and me," which symbolizes the union of two individuals. It's often seen as a romantic gesture, representing the bond between two people. These rings became popular during the late 18th and 19th centuries, particularly during the Romantic era, and they continue to be cherished as symbols of love and commitment.


Origin of Toi et Moi Rings

While this easily recognized ring style has been trending in popularity in recent years, the toi et moi ring has a much longer history than many people realize. The name itself – French for “you and me” hints at that history. 

In fact, the first recorded toi et moi ring was designed for what would become a very high profile relationship in 1796, when French army soldier Napoleon Bonaparte proposed to Josephine de Beauharnais, who was six years his senior. The toi et moi engagement ring Bonaparte presented to his beloved was a simple yellow gold setting that featured a diamond and a sapphire, both pear shapes, set symmetrically and touching at the edge. The couple married just three weeks later, and their passion became well known.


You and Me Ring Designs

As the most famous of these rings have demonstrated, there are many options for unique and personalized toi et moi rings. The key elements to the design are that only two stones are featured, and they should be similarly sized (though not always exactly identical) to have equal prominence as the ring’s focal point. Smaller accent stones may be used, and in fact some lovely toi et moi rings feature accents, halos, pave bands, and other extra sparkle.

The central stones may or may not be the same gemstone or shape, depending on the symbolism for the individual ring and the preferences of the wearer. Furthermore, the orientation and spacing of the stones can also vary, with some designs favoring the two center stones touching while others have a small space between them. It should be noted that, except for very small accents on some designs, it is not typical for these rings to have any other stones between the two larger center stones.


Celebrity Styles

Modern-day royalty of all types has also favored the toi et moi style, also called a “twin” or “duet” ring design.

In 1953, America’s own “Camelot” royal pair showed their union when John F. Kennedy proposed to Jacqueline Bouvier with a toi et moi ring featuring a diamond and an emerald, both emerald cut stones, with channel-set baguettes accenting the piece.

In 1966, then Crown Princess Margrethe of Denmark – later Queen Margrethe II – accepted a twin ring featuring two cushion cut diamonds from Henri de Laborde de Monpezat, a ring she continues to wear even years after her devoted spouse’s death.

In 2020, Dalton Gomez proposed to Ariana Grande with a stunning pearl and oval diamond toi et moi ring, supposedly incorporating a sentimental pearl from her grandfather into the design.

When Machine Gun Kelly proposed to Megan Fox in 2022, it was with a duet ring featuring pear-shaped stones, a diamond and an emerald, which are the couple’s birthstones.


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 Lee S verified buyer

Make the Look Your Own

With so much variation in different designs and styles for toi et moi rings, it is easy to get this look to suit your own fashionable flair. Different ways these rings may be personalized include:


Choose two different stones, such as meaningful birthstones or different
shades of the same favorite color. The two gemstones side by side symbolize the unity and connection between two individuals. It's a beautiful representation of a romantic relationship or partnership.



Choose more unique shapes for each stone, or different shapes for each one
altogether if desired. Each cut offers its own unique beauty and charm, allowing couples to find the perfect combination that reflects their individuality and love. 

Suzanne was amazing! I utilized the layaway service and it was a breeze. Ring made its way to Texas and was even more gorgeous in person."
 Chloe G verified buyer


Consider whether a narrow or wider spaces between the stones is preferred,
or even if the stones should be touching. Some toi et moi rings feature gemstones that are set very close together, almost touching. This creates a sense of intimacy and unity, emphasizing the connection between the two stones and symbolizing the bond between the individuals wearing the ring. 




Stones can be set at unique angles to be even more eye-catching, creating an
offset piece. The angles in a toi et moi ring should be chosen thoughtfully to create a harmonious and visually appealing design that highlights the beauty of the gemstones and symbolizes the connection between two individuals.




Toi et moi rings traditionally have two similarly-sized stones, but having one larger
and one smaller can be appealing. Both options offer their own unique charm and significance, so it's essential to choose the one that resonates most with you or the recipient of the ring. substance 


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 Claude P verified buyer

Choosing a Toi et Moi Ring

The best way to make a duet ring meaningful is for it to symbolize that extra special relationship. These rings can be stunning engagement rings, but if designed delicately with smaller stones, are also amazing promise rings. A toi et moi ring using a mother’s birthstone and that of her child can be a beautiful Mother’s Day gift or a special gift during her pregnancy. Similarly, a father might give his daughter a daddy-daughter ring with their birthstones to show his commitment to her, particularly as an adoption gift or marking a milestone as daddy’s girl grows up.

Toi et moi rings are beautiful styles that can be personalized in many meaningful ways, making them a lovely option for anyone’s individual jewelry preferences.


Antique Engagement Rings For Everyone:

No matter which era is your favorite, these time-honored rings have a rich history and individualized character and will continue to have a timeless beauty and elegant appeal that is part of a legacy to pass on to future generations.

Find The Perfect Engagement Ring:

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Suzanne Sachs

Suzanne has always believed vintage rings can change lives. She's been in the jewelry industry for over 35 years, working with vintage jewelers, diamond dealers, diamond cutters, and gemologists. Suzanne started Artdecodiamonds in 2000 and understood the demand for vintage rings throughout the world. She ultimately started in 2014, and understands each vintage ring is a reflection of you – your history, your relationships, your style, your elegance and is honored to have the opportunity to help you showcase your flair in a unique and exquisite way.
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