How Do I Choose a Gemstone for My Toi et Moi Ring?

THE BASICS --

Your toi et moi ring can be one of the most significant and heartfelt pieces of jewelry you will ever own, simply because it can symbolize not just one but two focal points. But how can you choose the best and most meaningful gemstones for this very intimate and personalized ring?

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW--

In this guide, we will explain the following:

• What is a Toi et Moi Ring?
• What the Ring Will mean to You
• Choosing Gemstones for Your Toi et Moi Ring
• Heirloom Ring
• Birthstones
• Meanings
• Shape
• Toi et Moi Ring Tips
• Care
• Toi et Moi: A Symbol of You and Me

What is a Toi et Moi Ring?

Toi et Moi rings, meaning "you and me" in French, beautifully symbolize the bond between two souls, making them perfect for engagements, weddings, or anniversaries. These rings feature two stones that can represent love, partnership, or even birthstones for a personal touch. With their timeless elegance and versatility, Toi et Moi rings are a meaningful choice for any special occasion.

What the Ring Will Mean to You

First, it’s important to recognize exactly what you want this very special ring to represent. If you just love the design of two balanced center stones, the sky’s the limit and you can choose whatever stone types, colors, and shapes you love the best.

If you want to layer more meaning in the ring, however, take time to think about each stone and what it means, and what its symbolism will show. Any type of bond or relationship can be represented by these gorgeous designs, including a romantic
partnership, a parent-child bond, or the special connection between siblings or best friends.

A toi et moi ring might also represent a different relationship you want to honor, such as having each stone represent your parents or grandparents. The design could even be symbolic of your own accomplishments, such as representing a goal that you have set and completed, special dates in your life, or locations you enjoy. I’m planning such a ring to commemorate when I was first diagnosed, and later cured, of lung cancer – a truly breathtaking accomplishment symbolic of endurance and strength.

Ultimately, whatever you want the ring to symbolize, you can choose ideal gemstones to represent that connection in a beautiful and everlasting piece of jewelry you will enjoy for years.

Choosing Gemstones for Your Toi et Moi Ring

There are hundreds of different gemstones available – so how do you pick which ones are best for your ring?

1. Heirloom Ring

Before you begin looking for new stones, consider any gems you already have. These stones might be part of an heirloom piece of jewelry, such as your great-grandmother’s antique engagement ring, and could be reset into your new ring to bring vintage personalization into the design.

2. Birthstones

If you want to use new gemstones, birthstones are a timeless and lovely option that can easily represent different people or significant dates. These might symbolize events such as a graduation, promotion, or engagement, as well as any relationship with that special someone. Remember – there are “traditional” as well as “modern” birthstones for every month, so you have quite a few gems to choose from that will offer similar symbolism.

3. Meanings

You can also choose stones for other meanings or connections. Perhaps the geography of the gem holds meaning for you – I personally adore the stunning aquamarine ring I bought at an estate sale, as it represents the ocean waves that are my happy place.

4. Shape

The shape of a gemstone can also add further symbolism to your ring. Heart shapes, of course, are perfect for symbolizing love, while a princess cut or emerald cut can symbolize strength and endurance, such as building blocks or foundational bricks. Two pear shapes set so their points are close to one another create a heart impression, while marquise shapes can seem like leaves or flower petals for a natural connection.

Toi et Moi Ring Tips

Whatever type of gemstone or shape you choose, be mindful that both are of similar size so they share the focus of the ring equally. That is the defining detail of a toi et moi ring, and you want to be sure both stones have equal prominence. Furthermore, choose stones with similar quality – sparkle, clarity, etc. – so they complement each other in all lights, rather than one literally outshining the other.

Care

Finally, when choosing gemstones for a toi et moi ring, it is important to consider not only the stones’ symbolism, but also their care. Both stones should have similar hardness and durability so the ring can be kept looking its best at all times. If one stone is exceptionally hard and the other is much softer, such as pairing a diamond (the hardest gemstone) with a pearl (one of the softest) for example, the softer gem could show damage and wear much more quickly, giving the ring an unbalanced and scruffy look.

Toi et Moi: A Symbol of You and Me

Toi et moi – you and me – rings are highly symbolic and easily customizable pieces. However you envision such a ring and what it means to you, choosing gemstones that best represent what you want the ring to symbolize is a great way to bring extra special significance to the piece.

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Suzanne has always believed vintage rings can change lives. She's been in the jewelry industry for over 35 years, working with vintage jewelers, diamond dealers, diamond cutters, and gemologists. Suzanne started Artdecodiamonds in 2000 and understood the demand for vintage rings throughout the world. She ultimately started VintageDiamondRing.com in 2014, and understands each vintage ring is a reflection of you — your history, your relationships, your style, your elegance and is honored to have the opportunity to help you showcase your flair in a unique and exquisite way.

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